On Monday, I was teaching at Rock School of Ministry. My church has a discipleship school and I have the huge honor to be one of the teachers there.
I don’t know how in the world I am the one teaching but often God puts in me in situations like this one.
Anyways… that’s another blog for another day…
We were talking about John 15:12-14. It says:
12 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.13 There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command.
I was teaching them how clearly shows the agape love Jesus has for us. AGAPE means unconditional, sacrificial, and selfless. You can Google more about it or go to Rock School of Ministry to hear my whole class.
In verse 12, you can see the unconditional part of agape. Love other like I loved you. No questions asked. No conditions. No matter how they love you back. No matter what they did and no matter what there intentions are… In verse 13, you can see the sacrificial part of the agape. There is no greater love than that one of that person that will die for you. OK, I am not saying to go and just die for someone just to prove your love BUT how about you sacrifice a few minutes of your busy schedule to pray for that one… how about you sacrifice your own desires for the other person’s. How about you think of them first? How about you serve them? In verse 14, Jesus sounds a bit bossy no? BUT if you do what He commands wouldn’t it show selflessness. That’s the last part of the agape love. Not your agenda. Not your expectations. Not your hopes.
In class, I got a few questions… “do we have to agape love everyone?” “How do we agape love everyone?” It was a fun class…
It was great until I brought up the whole “get to really know people so you can truly experience how to agape someone”.
When you really get to know someone, you get to see his or her faults. You get to see their brokenness. You get to find the ugly we all have. You get to see that after all, he or she wasn’t so perfect.
You see? It’s super easy to “agape” love someone when you don’t really know them. But is it truly agape… is it truly unconditional?… is it truly sacrificial?… is it truly selfless?
I don’t know you but the more I get to know someone the more I see their baggage and the more I have to put my grace pants on and love.
OK… Can we talk about your dude now? I know you have been thinking about him ever since you started reading… or “her” if you are one of those guys that like to read these… no judgment! You are welcome here! Wink wink!
Are you loving him AGAPE?
Oh I know it’s hard! I’ve been there before.
Thank God I am taking a break from this game called love, so when I get to play this game again, I will be ready to kill it! Not literally of course.
Are you showing him love just to end up with him? Are you showing him love just so he can notice you? Are you showing him love just because he is cute?
What does you showing love look like?
There is something so strong about knowing someone’s garbage and still CHOOSE to love still. Loving AGAPE is knowing what button to push to destroy him or her and deciding to NEVER push that button!
So if you don’t know that guy you are crushing for, you are wasting your time. Get to know him, study him, recognize patterns… and with that you will learn about yourself too… are you willing to love after everything you find out? Dum Dum DUM!
Here is what I told some of the students that I talked to after class… AND I HOPE YOU GET SOMETHING OUT OF THIS!
Just love. You love first. You love better. You love more. You don’t stop! Because I really believe that if I leave this classroom and I get hit by a truck… I die and go to heaven. I want my Abba to tell me… Good job loving (Vin Diesel in my case) my daughter! Because of how well you represented my love for him, because of all those long nights praying, because of all those fasting days for him to not get distracted, because of all those sacrifices, because of all those moments when you didn’t give up even though it never went the way you wanted to go… because you interceded for him… he grew closer to me will be coming later to spend eternity with me! AND that! THAT ALONE is the reason why I AGAPE!
P.S. I don’t know if Vin Diesel is now saved. I don’t think so. I only use him when I have nobody else to talk about. He has been the love of my life since 2009.