I pray my future husband doesn’t make ME a priority!!
I saw this picture the other day. And I have to say… it really bothered me.
No, I am not saying that I want to be neglected or used by my husband. But I really really pray for him to be wise enough to get me out of this thinking.
I get what you are saying. A guy should love you, protect you, CHASE YOU!!! He should make SURE THAT YOU KNOW you are loved, wanted, desired…
I’ve even said that…
Goodness! I go to bed every night wanting that!!! I know what it feels like!!! I am in bed wishing to the point of tears for a man to love me like that…
And yes, when you are first dating or getting to know the guy… you expect for extra attention. I mean… you expect extra love!!
Guys behave really good in the boyfriend phase and then they become… let’s just say…more relaxed when they get married… or so I have been told!
Let me see if I make any sense… I know the Bible says for men to love their wives like Christ loves the church. This doesn’t mean for guys to do everything just right so that we can be happy. That’s manipulation!!! Jesus died for us so that we could be holy again. Men are supposed to love us enough to help us get to a deeper relationship with Christ. So they can help us to become holy!!! Marriage is not about the couple being happy but for the couple to be more like Christ!
What bothers me about this picture is that this is what’s the problem with a lot of us women…And I include myself!!!
We have that mentality that they should worship us. We have that idea that they have to do everything perfect so that we can be happy!!!
There is another phrase that hits me like a punch in the stomach every time I hear it.
“Happy wife, happy life!”
Ugh!!! That’s just wrong!!!
We expect for them to meet all of our needs when it is NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!!!!
Don’t get me wrong!!! I believe that a guy should swim shark infested waters for you or flight a plane to come have breakfast with you! (A pilot guy was interested in me a few months ago. It was AMAZING to have him around. He did wonderful things for me but it didn’t work. He wasn’t in love with Christ.)
HECK!!! A guy already died in a cross for you!!!!
What I don’t like is that FEELING of ENTITLEMENT!!!! That is not humbleness!!!!
Your happiness should not be the goal for any relationship!!!
YOUR HAPPINESS SHOULD NEVER BE THE GOAL FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP!!!!!
YOUR HOLINESS SHOULD BE THE GOAL FOR EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (let me add more of these) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So the moment you have those feeling like “oh dude, take care of me cuz if you don’t someone else will!”
You slap yourself in the face… twice if needed!!!! AND pray that your eyes are opened to what God thinks of that attitude. Pray that God teaches you how to go back to humble! Back to submitting!!!
This is why we have a lot of fearful man who do everything the women want so they won’t be nagged. This is why men are forgetting how to be men! Because we, women, act like this!
And please please pray that your guy puts God first before you… otherwise he won’t know how to love you, he won’t know how to guide you or he won’t even know how to deal with you!
And hey guys who read my blogs!!! 😉 This doesn’t mean you can just not call back after a date, or not call back after you missed her call, or not answer a text message, or be a jerk (some of you guys are really good at that!)… remember that she is the daughter of the King of kings and he has very creative ways to terminate people! Let me remind you the lady that ended up as a pillar of salt, or King Herod was swallowed by worms, or Jezebel was eaten by dogs… I wouldn’t want to mess with one of His daughters! That’s all I am saying!
Ladies, let’s not teach the younger ones that this picture is what we should act like or expect from men. But that we should expect for them to put God first and that we always should be humble!!!
I love you!!